I’m a work in progress


As many of you already know, I am all for figuring out how we can disagree in a healthy way, how we can have many different, opposing views and still co-exist in a healthy way. I consider it a form of wealth. In most instances I will make time to have a conversation and see it to the end (no matter how hard it is), so when I say I wanted to get up and walk away from this conversation, please understand what that means. I felt that I had reached a dead end. That there was nothing of value that I could add to the conversation or take from the conversation, it was almost as though I would have been contributing by walking away. Afterwards, I got home, still feeling fragile and worked up from some of the personal attacks I had endured in the conversation. That is where this thought process was sparked from. I shared it as a status update and the over 100 likes and comments showed me that it resonated deeply with many people (some of which stopped me in the streets to say “thank you” and “I agree”) so I thought I share it over here too.

“I am not a socialist, nor am I a capitalist. I am not black. I am not a coconut. I am not anti-American nor am I pro-African (I know that I have just compared a country to a continent – no need to point it out). I am not a feminist either. I am an individual that is bi-polar & schizophrenic and wild and tame and confused and self-assured. I am masculine and feminine. I am confused and certain. I am a puzzle made up of beautiful as well as ugly. I’m a talker. I’m a listener. I’m loud. I’m silent. I’m passionate and apathetic. I am part of the “system(s)” and I am not. I am all of this and none of this. You know why? I am a product of all I see and encounter. I am a work-in-progress. I’m allowed to be.”


Botho aka Ubuntu is the embodiment of a THRIVING community and way of being

Something has been bubbling within me and it is coming out as this blog post.

In order for any community to thrive (please note, not survive) there needs to be something we in South Africa call BOTHO more widely known as UBUNTU. Lately I have been feeling that in this community we are surviving and not thriving.

There is something lacking.

And this something could be summed up in saying that there is a lack of Ubuntu. In case you are wondering what UBUNTU means, here is a short video containing an explanation by Nelson Mandela my former president 🙂

Video found here

I could almost go as far as saying that Ubuntu is the opposite of the Western way of life. Which is very focused on individualism, solitude and heavy self-reliance. I admit that there is a place for these somewhere but at the moment I don’t believe that the western model is a healthy representation of these.

During the year we have often found ourselves in conversation which end up hovering on the belief that “indigenous” people and cultures hold the answers, that their way of life is better and that there is much to be learnt from them.

I agree.

Ubuntu, to me, is one of those concepts that once grasped and attempted to be implemented into our individual lives here, our co-existence in these houses would be healthier.

This is a work in progress, I will continue to expand on my thoughts on this topic. I need to get to bed now, the birds are singing the wake-up song and it’s only 2:35am!!